Q. I’m a broker with a young family to support. I love my job, but it’s become ‘all’ that I do. I don’t have time for my mates, I can’t remember the last time I did something not work-related. I’m worried I’m becoming isolated and really boring
It’s great that you love your job, but when work becomes all-consuming, it can lead to burnout, isolation, and a sense of losing yourself outside of your professional identity. Mate, you’re not alone – many brokers, especially those with young families, struggle to find balance.
First up, acknowledge that making time for yourself isn’t indulgent; it’s actually essential. You wouldn’t neglect your clients, so don’t neglect your own wellbeing. Just start small – schedule one non-work activity this week. Whether it’s grabbing a coffee with a mate, hitting the gym, or taking an hour to do something you enjoy – prioritise it like a meeting.
Next, set some boundaries. (I know, boring but so important). It’s easy to feel like you ‘should always be available’, but constantly being “on” is unsustainable. Try implementing clear work hours and sticking to them. This not only benefits you but can also give back some family time.
Reconnecting with your mates doesn’t have to be time-consuming. A quick message, a call during your commute, or planning a monthly catch-up can make a difference. Relationships don’t need grand gestures – just a bit of consistency.
Finally, don’t be afraid to talk about how you’re feeling. Isolation can creep up unnoticed, but recognising it is the first step to making a change. You’ve built a successful career – now it’s time to build a life that includes more than just work. Your future self (and your family) will thank you.
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